Back in the saddle… again

There are a lot of single people who are as keen as you to find someone special, but allowing yourself to be a little vulnerable can leave your heart palpitating at the mere idea of putting yourself out there again. When you are all solo, that’s the perfect time to reflect, learn and apply the lessons learned from your past experience, Melanie Stewart, a relationship specialist and clinical psychologist stated. It's important to reflect on your past relationship and what caused it to end. Being on your own offers an opportunity to write a whole new chapter of your life. These days’ technology has built an emotional bridge connecting us with like-minded people. There are tons of dating sites, websites and pubs out there. All you need is to take a leap of faith, create a dating profile and post it. The only thing you have to do is to keep it real thou. Time, they say, is a great healer, so give yourself as much as possible. Those trips you’ve been putting off, to visit and reconnect with your friends and family? Book them and go. That hobby that’s been on the back burner while you were in a relationship would love to have you back, so dust off those Lycra shorts, clubs or sneakers, and get back out on the road, golf course or soccer field. “Common, shared interests are a sure-fire way of meeting new friends and potential love interests,” Stewart points out. Rather than flopping about on your couch feeling sorry for yourself, going outside and working up a bit of a sweat will improve your overall mood and shift your focus back onto yourself. “Breaking old routines and replacing them with healthy, new ones goes a long way towards getting your head straight and your heart pumping,” Stewart says. “When you get to that point – and you will – being by yourself and enjoying your own company no longer feels like a prison sentence, and that’s when the unexpected can happen and most often does. “It’s not about becoming indifferent to the possibility of ever finding that someone special you’re looking to complete you – it’s about you reconnecting with yourself,” Stewart explains. “Healthy body, healthy mind”. So, you’re looking buff, your confidence levels are peaking, and you’re suddenly a lot more attractive in terms of your overall persona. “How you feel is what you reflect when you’re out in society,” Stewart concludes. “Putting your past behind you leaves you free and open to new possibilities. That’s when you attract good things and even better people.”

GETTING IT TOGETHER

Here are 10 surefire tips to help guide you through the maze of possibility out there
1. Dress well, but don’t wear anything that doesn’t leave you feeling comfortable and confident.
2. Leave your ex at the door.
3. Just be yourself. She either likes you for who you are or she doesn’t.
4. Talk to your single friends. They can help guide you back into the dating pool.
5. Go against your usual flow. Date different people and remind yourself to have fun while you’re at it.
6. Pay attention to your date. She took time out to be with you, so be respectful and engage.
7. Do what makes you feel comfortable. Being anything other than yourself will get complicated quicker than you think.
8. What’s the rush? Yes, you’re super-keen to connect, but remember to pace yourself.
9. Be kind to yourself and consider the fact you may get some rejections along the way too. It’s normal.
10. Question without becoming paranoid.

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